From time immemorial, God has demonstrated that the man within is the person of interest concerning most of His dealings with human beings. When it comes to the New Testament believer, we are hosts of the Spirit of the Lord and a greater demand and responsibility is placed on us not to bring reproach to it by presumptuous sin . That said, the conversation around purity and virginity is one I have observed be confused or misinterpreted by many in the body of Christ, be it as individuals or as parents teaching children about purity. Purity is most often only linked to matters that relate to our sensuality rather than looking at it from a wholesome context. Purity is an exercise of the mind, a state of cleanliness and lack of negative contamination in your words, actions, your imagination and thoughts. Whereas, virginity is the mere fact of having not engaged in sexual intercourse with a man or a woman.
What Christ calls us to is purity because it touches the man within and transforms them causing this individual’s flesh or the man without to bear the fruits of what has happened on the inside. In other words it becomes an outward indicator of a transformation that has occured within and against such there is no law or hindrance because it carries the power to preserve you as it is sustained by the Spirit of the Lord within you.
Happy are those who live pure lives, who follow the Lord’s teachings. PNCV
Following the instruction of the Lord means hearkening unto His Spirit. The Apostle Paul tells us that those that are led by the Spirit of the Lord are the sons of God When we confess unto salvation, we make a very powerful statement “I accept you as my Lord and Savior” which many do not realize represents the total abdication of your will and reception of another’s who is perfect and not lacking.
The pertinent error is that some stop at Jesus’ lordship over their lives but walk oblivious of Him as a Savior. Others take His saving but ignore His lordship seeking for a God that coddles them in their fleshly feelings and desires, never correcting them yet biblically, we see He corrects the child He loves A man therefore who intentionally and willfully seeks the mind of God before making any decision, inevitably walks pure because the Spirit of God which is leading is incorruptible and even when the flesh falls on occasion, this same Spirit stirs it to Godly sorrow that leads to true repentance. Remember that our treasure is in an earthen vessel and the reason for that is simple, that the sufficiency may be of CHRIST
Of Parents Teaching Children In The Way of Purity
Train up a child in the way he should go [teaching him to seek God’s wisdom and will for his abilities and talents], Even when he is old he will not depart from it. AMP
I always tell parents that children don’t necessarily do what you tell them to do, they do what they see you do. We have seen countless children repeat the patterns of their parents, both good and bad, not because God did not have a plan for them, but as stewards of it – you were not faithful as a parent. For example, you cannot teach children about purity when they see you perform otherwise intimate behavior as parents in front of them. It is important for children to see affection between parents but it needs to be void of lust. Importing what you see from Hollywood into the home, only defines parameters in the young minds observing you that will be very hard to reverse. It is possible to honor and be affectionate towards your spouse without stirring lustful imaginations within your children’s minds, for whoremongers and adulterers – God judges
The same applies to casting upon them the burden of virginity without any foundation of purity. The young mind that is probably not even sexually active but completely defiled when it comes to purity begins a struggle against flesh and blood when it is scripturally clear that we wrestle not against such, but against principalities and evil rulers Many believers, especially among the youth, are physically virgins but extremely impure in their words and actions and the reason for this, is the fine line which causes confusion between purity and virginity. They apply all their efforts in avoiding sexual intercourse but remain enslaved to pornography and masturbation. Parents, the enemy is not merely interested in having your child lie down with a man or woman outside of wedlock, that is only a byproduct of a greater underlying issue. His intention is to torment them with lusts and desires in their flesh through what they watch, listen to, openly or privately and keep them bound into that vicious cycle.
Of Adults Walking in Purity
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Marriage does not solve the problem of underlying impurity and lust. Many believers unfortunately are under this deception and live in unfulfilled and frustrated marital destinies because they attempted to save themselves through works. Even more dangerously, bringing lust into marriage defiles the marriage bed and this is an abomination to God. One may wonder but what does defiling the marriage bed look like? The imminent response will always be cheating for most but is only a product of impurity that hasn’t been dealt with. A spouse does not cheat the day they lay down with another individual. It begins with the evil communication that corrupts manners to which they are exposed Some spend innumerable hours watching catalyzing shows filled with scripted emotions and lust and the more you ingest it naturally, it takes root in your mind. Many believe they have the mental capacity to watch and remain unaffected but it only takes a few days for anything to become normal and eventually progresses into a habit. An even deeper aspect many are oblivious to, is how these same evil communications from the songs and shows, and companies of people you keep that are not aligned to purpose can stir your mind to place unrealistic and scripted expectations on your spouse, bringing principalities within your very matrimonial bed.
A great minister of the gospel once put it this way : God created us with sexual passion so that there would be language to describe what it means to cleave to him in love and what it means to turn away from him to others. In other words, intimacy done right, within the lens of purity as defined by the Bible, truly represents our relationship to Christ and is yet another form of worship and praise pleasing to God. Selah!
If you have never given your life to Jesus Christ, and you feel that this is the perfect time, pray this prayer:
“Lord Jesus, I thank you because you died for my sins and you were raised for my glory. Today, I receive you as my Lord and Savior. I am born again. Amen.”
